Help!

I really need help on this. It's a friendship problem.
The story:


I always had this good friend. She was already there for me, defending me, going along with my crazy self . but I don't know why but now she always seem bitter, and moody. I mean one day, at lunch I saw her sitting and came over to tell her I have to get my lunch real quick. and she was like, "Whatever." And then later she's all happy, happy after I talked to her about it. Then next day, she's being rude and mean to my friend and me. I didn't want to make her angry so I said nothing, but my friend did, thankfully. Then after my friend left, I just kept thinking about this. And she was like, "If you don't want to listen then leave." She been like this. She's always when i just sometimes hang out with my other friends she likes get all sad and moody and mean. I try to talk to her and get ehr to join but.... it won't work. She doesn't trust them. And she like," You should be friends with them instead of me." It's driving me crazy!!!!! I never forced her to like them or anything. She thinks she ranks bellow a rock in my friendship scale. But it's not true. She just drives me nuts!!! I try to ignore it but I can't any longer. I think she's only doing to make revange when in 6th grade I was talking to other girls. She thinks I can't hang with anyone else, and I really need advice.

Sorry this is so long. But i really need advice. Is she really my friends? Or shoould I just let her go...

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Wait a couple more days and see what happens, if it worsens don't be her freind

Wait and see how she acts for the next couple days. she may just be a little moody because something is going wrong.

if she is still like this over the next few weeks then tell her how you feel then if she gets angry at you tell her its about time well went our seprate ways if she is cool about it then tell her to try and be a bit less moody and more happy and then you guys can stay friends.

Dear Amy,
This is a very hard one,but i think i could help.Have you argued before she became moody?if so,try and cheer her up.Go shopping with her or watch a movie that she loves!or you could make her something that she will love like a pop up card.If this does not work,try telling her how you feel,and she may be her normal self again.
hope this helps!
beth928/katepawfect

Hmm. Wait a little bit. My best friend is kind of acting the same way, but we are not gonna lose our friendship just because she is acting different. When my friend acts like that I just ignore her and I talk to my other friends. Just take one step at a time. Maybe she has something inside of her that is bothering. So talk to her, tell her how you feel that you don't like when she talks to you like that. Hope this helped!

Amy,

Talk to her personally and ask her why she is being rude all of a sudden. If you two were best friends before then, there must be a reason why she has changed into a different person. Have you two gotten in a fight before this episode? If you did, rethink it and try to make up.
Has your friend been hanging with a new crowd? If so, then that could be why she is acting different. She might be influenced by them. You should just talk to her and try to solve this situation. If you don't solve it then, your only choice is to let her go. Friends come and go and, friendship doesn't last forever.
If it doesn't work, meet new people! Good Luck!

Wait a few days. Then if it continues, talk to her. If she just doesn't want to cooperate, then don't be her friend, you can always meet and make friends with other people

I would wait a while and see how she is then if she is still being moody i think you should let her go my friend was moody and I told her how I felt and she said sorry and we are best friends again so I would tell her how you feel and that it is annoying you

Dear Amy,

i have been through the same situation as you. Well maybe your friend is a little jealous that you are hanging out with people other than her. I think you should introduce your friend to your other friends so she's not lonely. Or when ever your at lunch with the other girls call your friend over to join. Or you and your friend could join a activity together or even have a little party and invite some of your other friends.
I also think you two should still be friends

Thanks guys. This is so helpful! I'm glad I have you guys to help too!

Dear Amy,
Everything everybody is saying is true. Friends do come and go, and that is okay. I have been in that situation.
I have a wonderful and outgoing friend. She can be a little corky sometimes, says things she doesn't mean, or really moody and angry at me for no exact reasons. I can trace jealousy in her sometimes, or can see that she doesn't like people to say things about her that are negative, or tell her to stop with an explanation what she is doing wrong. There have been days in our friendship where I wanted to rip my hair out and scream and yell, wanting to end the friendship right then and there. I realized I did not want to be worst enemies though, and learned that the best way to end a friendship is to let it fade away over time. Even though we have had our ups and downs, I kept her close, and she is still my BFF today, even though we have our differences!!
Some friends are doing their own seperate ways, and don't know how to end a friendship. Sometimes it's a better thing to calmly say, "I can see things aren't working out, and we don't understand each other's feelings. Maybe we shouldn't be friends." Then again, maybe something is going on in her life that she doesn't feel comfortable about, so you might want to ask her calmy if there is anything you can do to help her.

Either way, trust your instincts about things, and do what you feel is right. Keep in your mind that you are not the only one having to go through tough times with friends... you are not alone! Hope I helped!!
Wish you luck
Malrose8852 :flower:

ok, this sounds oddly firmiliar. My friend and I seem to do the same thing. But instead,this is what happened:

(i'm katie, my friend's Maddy the moody one, and ashlyn's my word or reason lol!!)

(maddy calls ashlyn and the following happens)

Maddy; UGH!!I am going to explode on katie!!!
ashlyn; What??
maddy; i am going to explode like a bomb on her because i'm mad at her!!!!
ashlyn; what's up between you two now!?!?!
maddy; well she's making fun of my clothes!!
ashlyn; maddy, that happened 4 months ago, haven't you let that go??? And besides, all she said was that your sweater fit about 5 years ago, and that other kids might judge you!
maddy; uh,no! Then she said to take the sweater off! she pretended like she was looking out for me! but i know she wasn't!
ashlyn; MADDY!!!! SHE SAID that you should take it off so that they wouldn't laugh at you!!
maddy; well still, my sweater is pretty!
ashlyn; maddy, it's a dress sweater from christmas when you were 5...
maddy; ughhh!!!
ashlyn;ok, so your mad at her why again??
maddy; just drop it gtg bye
(end of phone call with ashlyn and maddy)
(the way i know what happened was because ashlyn warned me about the exploding bomb called maddy)

-----the next morning at school-----

katie; hey maddy....
maddy; hi...
katie; i.....um.... your hair looks....uh....um....your shirt looks nice...
maddy; yeah.
katie; well i gotta get to class
maddy; yeah
katie; i'll talk to you later
maddy; Oh, wait! Your hair looks really nice and you should come over some time!!
katie is totally confused
katie; Oh, thanks! um...I'll be sure to do that!
maddy; Bye!!!

so then the rest of the day maddy was like a roller coaster and she was like all mood swingee so if i were you, try to talk it out and relax and have fun!!

Amy, I was just worried, what is going on with your friend. I hope you and your friend are all right.